Doin’ It Right

My mom used to annoy the shit out of me with one simple phrase… “If you’re going to do something, do it right. Don’t half-ass it”.

I know, I know... it sounds reasonable now, but I couldn’t understand the sentiment as a pre-teen who never wanted to do the dishes in the first place.

But ultimately, after two decades of her persistent nagging and refusing to allow me to mail in my efforts, I eventually began to take pride in the quality of work I produced.

I don’t know if my mom was ever able to witness that shift though. She watched me struggle for years as an aspiring artist, suggesting I alternatively focus on the entertainment business. And more specifically, she constantly advised me to become a film producer, because “that's where the money is”.

But I always dismissed her requests. And by the time I finally gave in and found a small foothold within the industry, my mom developed a mild cognitive impairment, which evolved into dementia within a few short years. And now she no longer recognizes me at all. In fact, I've essentially kept her disorder a secret, because I know she would be horrified if she found out her old friends and coworkers were aware of her mental decline.

My mom has always been intelligent, and the hardest working person I've ever known. So, after years of stubbornly avoiding her advice, I finally gave in and ventured into the business side of the music industry; and most recently into the film Universe. But the heartbreaking part is my mom can’t even share in these new adventures, as I explore the dream she envisioned for me.

The obvious takeaway is that life is short. We know we don’t have time to waste. We've heard it a billion times. It just doesn't seem to register until it affects us directly— when a parent has a stroke, a loved one is killed by a drunk driver, or we have to suffer through our own health issues.

But that's not the point I'm trying to make.

To go back to the original phrase, “If you’re going to do something, do it right. Don’t half-ass it”. 

I see so many young people full of potential, but in half-assing it, that’s exactly where they sell themselves short. They’re on the right track, but just can’t seem to make the final turn. They’re 22 miles into a marathon, when they start complaining of fatigue, or whining about a leg cramp. You know exactly who I’m talking about. The people who grumble about their work hours or lament the expectations of their jobs. They make excuses, and refuse to take ownership. Maybe it’s just a sign of immaturity, and hopefully many of them will outgrow it, but unfortunately some never do. And that ominous rain cloud over their head just becomes bigger and darker every time a new challenge arises. 

It’s the entitlement that comes back to bite them. The idea that they can just pop in and out whenever they want, with no repercussions for their inconsistency.

When I’m looking to work with someone in any capacity, there are just a few traits I require-- honesty, fairness, hard work, and just straight up cool to be around. But most importantly, it’s essential for everyone on the team to take full ownership, which means acting as if each of us has a real stake in the success or failure of every project (because we do). It doesn’t matter if you’re a wide-eyed rookie or a jaded vet.

And if you don’t care, then go take your indifference elsewhere. There are plenty of 9-5 jobs you can clock in and out of. 

Just think about the people in your lives that are so close, but keep fumbling the ball at the one yard line (apologies for all of the sports analogies). How can you inspire them? How can you show them you care? What can you do to help them get the ball across the goal line? Because I believe once they see the end zone, it becomes easier the next time around.

And if you see a bit of yourself in the person I'm describing, that's ok. Progress is a mindset, and it's never too late to make changes. Just think back to when all you wanted in life was to be involved in music... When you were just a fan. When you simply craved the ability to create art or make a living off music. And now you're here, living your dream.

How lucky are we? We can create whatever we want, whenever we want. How can this even be considered work? 

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